-
When Romantic Love Stops Being the Answer
How acceptance loosened the grip of longing For a long time, I believed the ache meant something, that longing was proof of love. That if I wanted something badly enough, if I twisted myself into a pretzel, I could have it. I didn’t question that belief for a long time. I let it shape my choices, my moods, my sense of self. As I took a good, hard look at myself, I began to understand that while each unfolding moment presents an opportunity to change the future, there are also limits to what I can influence. Some things are clearly within…
-
When You Crave a New Life, But the Problem Isn’t Your Life
The inner shift that changes results — without changing who you are I must say, I have been in somewhat of a slump — trying to understand whether it’s depression, or if something needs to change. I move the furniture around. Doom scroll on a quest for “inspiration.” Search online for some essential tools I need to purchase — whether that’s a few new journals, some pens, or the obvious course I need to take that will finally make me enough. I get a new haircut and think about what needs to be decluttered to make room for something new. A new page, a new leaf, or…
-
How Tiny Things Hijack My Happiness
Why everyday moments trigger us in ways that make no sense I started reading A Year with Anthony DeMello: Waking Up Week by Week, and already I’m realizing what a mess I am. In the second week, he asks us to pay attention to the subtle ways we make our happiness depend on things outside ourselves. And while I understand this concept very well, I apparently fail to implement it in the most ridiculous areas of my life. For example: the dishes in the sink. I was literally reading the line:“Catch the subtle ways in which you make your happiness depend…
-
The Three Essential Forces That Shape Every Change
The unseen rhythm that turns awareness into evolution There have been words spinning around in my mind lately — words about creating positive change in one’s life. Some call it transformation. Others call it manifestation. Whatever word we use, it points to the same mysterious shift that happens within the human psyche — one that eventually reveals itself in our lives, our bodies, and the world around us. When we make such a change, it ripples outward.It’s energy becoming matter.Energy shifting matter. That energy begins within. More specifically, it begins with clarity — one of the words that keeps returning to me. Clarity allows us to…
-
The Simple Tool That Helps Turn Overwhelm Into Clarity
Learn how to turn chaos into clarity using a simple self-reflection tool to help you find focus and direction during change.